The Facts (Chapter number" Verse)
1:20 - "Tell it not in Gath, proclaim it not in the streets of Ashkelon; or the daughters of the Philistines will rejoice, the daughters of the uncircumcised will exult."
1:24 - "O Daughters of Israel, weep over Saul, who clothed you with crimson, in luxury, who put ornaments of gold on your apparel."
1:26 - "I am distressed for you, my brother Jonathan; greatly beloved were you to me; your love to me was wonderful passing the love of women."
2:2 - David went to Hebron with his two wives, Ahinoam of Jezreel and Abigail the widow of Nabal.
3:2-5 - Sons were born to David at Hebron: his first was Amnon, of Abhinoam of Jezreel. Second was Chileab, of Abigail the widow of Nabal. Third was Absalom, of Maacah daughter of King Talmai of Geshur. Fourth was Adonijah, son of Haggith. Fifth was Shephataih , of Abital. Sixth was Ithream, of David's wife Eglah.
3:7-8 - Saul had a concubine named Rizpah daughter of Aiah. Ishbaal said to Abner, "Why have you gone into my father's concubine?" Abner was angry at this, asking why Ishbaal was charging him with a crime concerning this woman when Abner had been so loyal to the house of Saul.
3:13-16 - Abner wants to make a covenant with David. David agrees but demands that Abner bring Saul's daughter Michal to him when Abner meets him. David sent messengers to Ishbaal, Saul's son, saying, "Give me my wife Michal, to whom I became engaged at the price of 100 foreskins of the Philistines." Ishbaal sent and took her from her husband Paltiel. But her husband went with her, weeping and he walked behind her all the way to Bahurim. Then Abner told him to go back home.
Since there is no tone in the dialogue here it's hard to tell in Chapter 3 is David is actually angry about another man taking his former fiance. It does seem to me that he is upset that Michal had been taken from her, which is why he is taking her back. David seemed to completely forget about Michal while he was dealing with Nabal in 1 Samuel. If he wanted to get angry about it why wasn't he angry when it first happened? Why wait all this time? Unless he really didn't give two shits about her and only wants her back now because he has an opportunity to. So Michal is ripped from her life all because David decides he wants her. How nice. On top of that it seems her current husband Paltiel actually loves her, or is at the very least emotionally distressed that she being taken. If her husband was just angry his property was being taken I think he would be angry and violent, not weepy and simply following her as she is taken to David. So David first forgets about her, then demands her as a price like she's a thing to have, then takes her from a husband that seems to genuinely care about her in order to add her to the six or more wives her already has. Like she's a collectible or something.
And David is supposed to be one of God's chosen? A hero and champion that Christians are supposed to look up to and aspire to? Ick.
Tomorrow: 2 Samuel 4-7